Scripture tells us that when a man and a woman marry, they complete each other by God’s design and become one. But what happens to that oneness when expectations are unmet, your spouse is not pursuing Christ the way you’d hoped, or some other problem inserts itself between you? The first thing you can do is look at the barriers you might be raising yourself. When you humbly search your own heart instead of seeking to control your spouse’s, you can be the “completer” God desires and experience the peace that comes along with it. And when you are both seeking to fully inhabit the roles the Lord has designed for marriage, you will see how his plan for oneness deeply enriches your relationship.