Additional Resources on Understanding

There are few things more frustrating than feeling misunderstood. When the person misunderstanding you is your spouse, it’s easy to become discouraged, angry, or unresponsive. There is a better way. By seeking to understand your spouse, you help open lines of communication and trust. We’re not going to lie, the practice of seeking to understand rather than first be understood, is hard. However, God has promised that when we trust Him in this, He will clear the way for us (Proverbs 3:5-6). When you pursue listening well and seeking to better understand your spouse, you’ll find that the foundation of your marriage is stronger.

Scriptures to Study

• Proverbs 3:5-6
• Colossians 3:18-19

Some of our Favorite Articles on Understanding

• Emotional Affairs are a Dangerous Game in Marriage by Ben Wilson
• Six Lessons in Good Listening by David Mathis
• The Five Love Languages Personal Assessment for Couples by Gary Chapman
• 50 Ideas to Inspire Your Husband by Jan Breitenstein
• The Biggest Mistake I Made on My Wife’s Birthday by Scott Kedersha

Books

For Women:

• Feminine Appeal by Caroline Mahaney and Nancy DeMoss
• For Better or For Best: Understanding Your Husband by Gary Smalley
• For Women Only by Jeff and Saunti Feldahn
• Have a New Husband By Friday by Kevin Leman

For Men:

• For Men Only by Jeff and Shaunti Feldahn
• If Only He Knew: Understanding Your Wife by Gary Smalley

For Husband and Wife:

• The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman
• I Beg to Differ: Navigating Difficult Conversations with Truth and Love by Tim Muelhoff
• His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley

Videos

• Understanding by Ryan McCarthy