No one asks for brokenness. Sometimes our pain is due to our own struggles. Sometimes it is the result of others’ sin. Sometimes it is the result of a fallen and imperfect world. Often, we try to avoid the reality of brokenness by building emotional walls, hiding behind our pride, putting up a front of perfection, and sometimes even blaming others. Behaviors like these cause cracks in a marriage that weaken its foundation and push husbands and wives apart. In truth, when we bring our brokenness to the Lord, to our spouse, and to others in trusted community, it can be the beginning of true healing and one-ness. Divorce and division are not the answers that God desires, even when hard times come in marriages. However, dealing with issues like addictive behavior or a spouse who does not want to change can feel overwhelming. Spending time in Scripture and seeking godly wisdom can help direct you toward the hope that God always changes a willing heart that submits to Him.