Additional Resources on Making Amends
When conflict occurs in marriage, most likely both spouses contributed to the conflict. While one spouse may have a much larger contribution, both need to own their part in order to resolve the conflict. Even if your part seems small, like an errant word or roll of the eyes, God calls you to humbly take responsibility for your part without making excuses, trying to blame someone or something else, and with no expectation that your spouse will admit their wrongdoing. This starts the amends process that allows you to clean up your side of the relationship and ultimately leads to the peace and restored relationship that God wants for you.
Scriptures to study
- Psalm 139:23-24
- Matthew 7:3-5
- Ephesians 4:31-32
- Romans 13:8
- James 5:16
Videos
- Amends by John Elmore
- Resetting Your Relationships by David Penuel
- Forgiveness in Action by Ryan McCarthy
- The Five Languages of Apology by Gary Chapman
Articles
- The Best Way To Properly Apologize To Your Spouse by Ted Cunningham
- The Most Difficult Thing God is Asking You to Do by Gary Thomas