When conflict occurs in marriage, most likely both spouses contributed to the conflict. While one spouse may have a much larger contribution, both need to own their part in order to resolve the conflict. Even if your part seems small, like an errant word or roll of the eyes, God calls you to humbly take responsibility for your part without making excuses, trying to blame someone or something else, and with no expectation that your spouse will admit their wrongdoing. This starts the amends process that allows you to clean up your side of the relationship and ultimately leads to the peace and restored relationship that God wants for you.