Additional Resources on Reconciliation

Conflict is inevitable, especially in marriage. Instead of viewing conflict as a dead-end, biblical resolution instructs husbands and wives to look deeper at themselves and the struggles faced. Knowing whether the source of frustration is a result of selfishness, an issue on both sides, or even a stressor that can’t be controlled, is the beginning of a process that leads toward one-ness. Scripture clearly explains this process which leads to true peace-making, rather than the “peace-faking” that occurs when we avoid or resist conflict. While confronting conflict might seem intimidating, the work is worth the result of a marriage able to navigate the inevitable storms that arise.

Scriptures to study

• Psalm 139:23-24
• Proverbs 19:11
• Matthew 5:23-24
• 2 Corinthians 5:11-21
• 2 Corinthians 13:11
• Colossians 1:15-22
• Colossians 3:12-13
• Romans 14:19
• Hebrews 12:15

Books

• The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict by Ken Sande
• The Seven Conflicts: Resolving the Most Common Disagreements in Marriage by Tim and Joy Downs
• Pursuing Peace: A Christian Guide to Handling our Conflicts by Robert Jones

Articles

• Getting to the Heart of Conflict by Ken Sande
• 3 Ways to Reconcile After a Conflict by Les and Leslie Parrott

Videos

• Regenerate by Nate Graybill
• Conflict by Ryan McCarthy
• Don’t Stop If You Get Stiffed: What to Do When Conflict Gets Messier by Todd Wagner

Podcasts

• Battling Anger in your Marriage by Jeff Strese
• What Are we Fighting For?: How to Turn Your Arguments into the Best News Ever by Ted Lowe